“The reason that so many people never fulfill their potential is not a
lack of intelligence, opportunity or resources, but a lack of belief in
themselves. Or put another way, too little self-confidence. Without it, you can do little, with it, you
can do anything!” – William James
“Have confidence!" is one of the most essential pieces
of advice you'll receive in life that makes no sense if you've never done it.
You know what confident people look like, the advantages they get, and that
it's something worth emulating. How do you get there, though? I guess I am a
culprit to giving that counsel without necessarily elaborating it.
In the purest sense, confidence is knowing what you're good
at, the value you provide, and acting in a way that conveys that to others.
Contrast this with arrogance which typically involves believing you are better
in a particular area than you are, or low self-esteem which involves believing
you're less valuable than you think.
Often people think of confidence as something that the lucky
few are born with and the rest are left wishing for. Not true. Confidence is
not a fixed attribute; it’s the outcome of the thoughts we think and the
actions we take. No more; no less. It is not based on your actual ability to succeed
at a task but your belief in your ability to succeed.
We cannot depend upon, or wait for anyone else's approval. We
must see ourselves as worthy and capable of achieving anything we choose to
achieve. Ultimately, how we see ourselves is more important than how anyone
else sees us. If we don't work at loving and accepting ourselves, nothing
anyone else thinks matters. Building self-confidence is not only a great way to
attract others, but a great way to feel good about yourself!
There is no one else like you on this planet. No one looks
like you, has the same talents, experiences, or perspective as you do. You are
unique and are therefore here to make your unique contribution. If we each
focus on what we bring into the world to share, there can be no comparisons,
envy or regret.
When you do the best you can, with the best of what you've
got, you can't help but feel good about yourself and that confidence comes
through in everything that you do. Giving it your best makes you unafraid to
take risks or step out of your comfort zone - both great confidence-builders.
Self-confidence is something that you learn to build
up because the challenging world of business, and life in general, can
deflate it. You are not what happens to you, nor how you believe others see
you. In other words, you are not defined by what happens to you, nor are you
defined by how others see you. You are who you choose to be - a person of
character, dignity and self-confidence.
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