Whatever experience you have had with money will shape what
you expect of money. This goes as far as your childhood. You’ve probably heard
the saying “Monkey see, monkey do.” Well, humans aren’t far behind. As kids, we
learn just about everything from modeling. Although most of us would hate to
admit it, there’s more than a grain of truth in the old saying “The apple doesn’t
fall too far from the tree.” The point is that generally speaking, we tend to
be identical to one or a combination of our parents in the arena of money.
If you grew up in an environment with limited resources, you
are conditioned to live with insufficiency, a scarcity mentality and the nudge
to spend all you have because the future is uncertain. This blue print can go
on unnoticed for years until you stop and analyse yourself. In this case, even
when you have the money you are tempted to spend it on things that are
unnecessary because your blue print tells you that it’s never enough and will
never be enough so spend it as soon as you get it.
Many people who come from poor families become angry and
rebellious about it. Often they either go out and get rich or at least have the
motivation to do so. But there’s one little hiccup, which is actually a big
burp. Whether such people get rich or work their buns off trying to become
successful, they are not usually happy. Why? Because the root of their wealth
or motivation for money is anger and resentment. Consequently, money and anger become linked in their minds, and the more money such
individuals have or strive for, the angrier they get.
Meanwhile, the real issue is, and always was, the anger
between them and their parents. And until that anger is resolved, they will
never be truly happy or peaceful regardless of how much money they have or
don’t have. The reason or motivation you have for making money or creating
success is vital. If your motivation for acquiring money or success comes from
a non-supportive root such as fear, anger, or the need to “prove” yourself,
your money will never bring you happiness.
Of course, given a choice, most of us would rather worry
about having money and losing it than not having money at all, but neither are
overly enlightened ways to live. As with those of us driven by fear, many
people are motivated to achieve financial success to prove they are “good
enough.” You need to realize that no amount of money can ever make you good
enough. Money can’t make you some-thing you already are. Again, as with fear,
the “always having to prove yourself” issue becomes your habitual way of
living. You don’t even recognize it’s running you. No amount of money, or
anything else for that matter, will ever be enough for people who feel they are
not good enough themselves.
Remember, your inner world reflects your outer world. If you
believe you are not enough, you will validate that belief and create the
reality that you don’t have enough. On the other hand, if you believe you are
plenty, you will validate that belief and create plenty of abundance.
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